You Don’t Have to Perform Therapy
You might believe you are:
Too much
Too broken
or
Not good enough
And that there’s no way therapy could be helpful for you, specifically.
Maybe you’ve been in therapy before and it didn’t do what you needed.
Or maybe you’ve never been in therapy believing you couldn’t do therapy right because you were beyond help.
What if there was healing you can’t get wrong?
What healing you can’t get wrong looks like
In sessions with me, your emotions are valid, your behaviors make sense, and your disconnection or fear is data that helps us modify therapy to your specific needs.
I’m not focused on asking rhetorical questions so you have an “ah ha” moment.
I’m focused on exploring the need underneath it all. Because that is the core of what keeps your emotions making all the decisions.
Everything we do is adjustable to you, the individual.
Yes, we work on the standard resources, skills, and tools, but everything, and I mean everything, is adaptable.
So when you come to session and say, “I didn’t practice the tool,” my first question will be, “Do you even want to use it?”
If the answer is yes, then we will explore the barriers you have to using it and make the needed tweaks so that it is accessible to you.
What becomes possible
Our work together begins by expanding your emotional capacity so present day feels more manageable.
Through developing skills, resources, and tools, you build:
Trust in yourself
Trust in the process
And trust with me
As this trust grows, many people notice they can better sit with their emotions without being consumed by them.
Once this happens, we begin to engage with the core experiences that became the foundation for painful beliefs about yourself, others, and the world.
Little by little, painful beliefs can soften, old memories become less activating, and actions are based on values instead of fear, anger, or survival mode.
Outside of session this may look like noticing and enforcing boundaries, feeling more assured of your no, and the ability to live more authentically instead of what was forced on you by family, friends, or society at large.
If this feels different, but you need more details first, that's completely understandable. You’re welcome to start with the practical details.
If this feels different, like the kind of therapy you’ve been needing, you’re welcome to reach out to set up a phone consult.